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Hello, Goodbye

75 Rituals for Times of Loss, Celebration, and Change

Foreword by Elena Brower
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Embrace the power of ritual with simple practices that slow us down to honor and mark the real moments in our lives—from the loss of a parent to the birth of a child, from grieving a pet to celebrating coming out of the closet.

Life has many transitions: A baby is born. A child leaves for college. A marriage. A divorce. A death. We all experience moments of profound change, but what do we do to mark those moments? How do we become mindful of these events and imbue them with purpose and meaning? Could our lives be better, richer, and more resilient if we had more practical resources and rituals to honor, sanctify, and make sense of these transitions?

Day Schildkret, artist and author behind the international Morning Altars movement, believes that what we need is ritual. Rituals are the rhythms and traditions that give us a sense of stability in the face of uncertainty by reminding us that there’s always something we can do, say or make that conjures awe, contentment, and gratitude. They give us a way to acknowledge through our actions that, as life changes, we too must change.

Offering ways to make these moments special and sacred, Hello, Goodbye teaches you to not fear uncertainty, but instead participate fully and creatively in life’s inevitable changes, including:
-Birth of a child
-Moving and new homes
-Empty nesting
-Death anniversary
-Health crises

Containing over 75 hands-on ritual instructions, informed by hundreds of interviews, and filled with beautiful illustrations, inspirational story-telling, potent questions, and experienced wisdom, Hello, Goodbye is a lifelong go-to guide for life’s many milestones, perfect for those looking to find meaning in change and embrace the transformative thresholds of our lives.

Hello, Goodbye is the guide we all need to navigate life’s uncertainties with grace, meaning, and intention, perfect for fans of Krista Tippet, Priya Parker, and Elena Brower.

Brooke Porter

Day Schildkret is internationally known for Morning Altars and has inspired tens of thousands of people of all ages across the globe to be awed with impermanent earth art. Both Day and Morning Altars have been featured in BuzzFeedVICEVOX, Spirituality & Health Magazine, and on NBC and CBS’s affiliate stations. Day is the author of Morning Altars: A 7-Step Practice to Nourish Your Spirit through Nature, Art and Ritual, and Hello, Goodbye.

“I first spoke with Day about this book at the height of the COVID-19 lockdowns, in the midst of a year when we lost all our rituals—graduations, meeting new grandchildren, birthdays, weddings, funerals—and I remember thinking that this was the book we all needed as we tried to keep up with the avalanche of change. Thoughtful, lyrical, and a deeply human Hello, Goodbye helps us to pause at the thresholds of our lives, embrace the truth that change is our only real constant, and bring meaning to the process of transition.”

—Anja S., Senior Editor, on Hello, Goodbye

"Day Schildkret’s book Hello, Goodbye is the most direct and moving guide to ritual that I have ever read. . . Here you will find simple, evocative, original, powerful rituals for bedtimes and seasons, for new names and new homes, for birthing and coming out, for growing up and grieving—but not only rituals. . . . You just might discover a way to live more consciously, with feeling and gratitude." -Rabbi Jill Hammer, PhD, author of The Jewish Book of Days: A Companion for All Seasons


"Hello, Goodbye is a treasured guide for all times. Sharing powerful rituals to reconnect us with our past and step courageously into our future, Day's words weave an artful tapestry of inspiration and invite us to participate, intentionally, in the natural cycles of our own personal journey  – the beginnings and the endings – honoring the beauty and wonder of life itself." -Kim Chestney, Author of Radical Intuition and Founder of IntuitionLab

"Day creates a meaningful and detailed look into the magic and use of ritual as a tool for modern times. It may be possible that the technology of ritual is just what is needed to thread the needle from our current freneticism as a civilization, to a shared future of equanimity. Day brings old ways new again, in methods approachable for anyone." - East Forest, musician