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How Can I Be Your Lover When I'm Too Busy Being Your Mother?

The Answer to Becoming Partners Again

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Do you feel like your partner has become your child?

Do you find yourself being his maid, his cook, his manager?

Have romance, respect, fun–and sex–been drained out of your relationship?

In How Can I Be Your Lover When I’m Too Busy Being Your Mother? Sara Dimerman and J.M. Kearns lay bare an essential problem: the woman who finds she’s turned into a mother to her man instead of the equal and intimate partner she once was.

She has a day job just like he does, yet at home she finds herself doing most of the housework, running the home, and being in charge of the child rearing, which makes her his boss in the one place they spend most of their time together. This leaves her feeling angry and resentful—hardly conducive to being lovers.

Dimerman and Kearns boldly confront the issues, allowing both sexes to vent in no-holds-barred exchanges that range from hostile to hilarious. They deconstruct the problem using real-life examples and lay out a step-by-step path that will enable any couple to get back to being equal partners again.

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Sara Dimerman, C.Psych., is a psychologist who provides counselling to individuals, couples, and families.  A nationally recognized relationship and parenting expert, she is the author of four other books. Sara lives in Toronto, Canada, is married, and has two daughters. Visit HelpMeSara.com.

Photograph (c) Alexsey Moryakov

J.M. Kearns, PhD, is the author of the bestselling Why Mr. Right Can’t Find You and two other relationship books, featured in Oprah & Friends, Maclean’s, and Glamour. He lives in Cape May, New Jersey with his partner Debra. Visit JMKearns.com.

"How Can I Be Your Lover When I'm Too Busy Being Your Mother? tracks how the 'mother syndrome' is laying waste to marriages…The authors call on both genders to defy obsolete societal values, urging men to step up and women to step off."

– The Globe & Mail

"It has the answers you need to become partners again with your mate. These experts deconstruct the problem of women becoming mothers before lovers to their partners and they create a step-by-step path for couples to follow to get back to being equal partners again."

– SavvyMom.ca

“Nothing he does is good enough for her, and she’s not affectionate the way she used to be. If this sounds familiar, help is here in the form of an in-depth guidebook called How Can I Be Your Lover When I’m Too Busy Being Your Mother?: The Answer to Becoming Partners Again.”

– Maclean's

“The title puts it right out there, How Can I Be Your Lover When I’m Too Busy Being Your Mother?, and it speaks volumes…”

– YummyMummyClub.ca