Until Today!

Daily Devotions for Spiritual Growth and Peace of

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About The Book

“The most powerful spiritual healer, fixer, teacher on the planet.” —Oprah Winfrey

Shift your attitude and live your best life with this inspiring collection of 365 daily devotionals from New York Times bestselling author and star of the OWN Network’s hit show Iyanla: Fix My Life.

If there are situations, circumstances, or perhaps relationships in your life that you have been struggling to overcome, trying to work through, or doing your best to work around, throw your head back and declare to the universe, “Until Today!”

Whatever has been going on in your mind, your life, or your heart can stop—right now, if that is truly what you desire. However, you must be willing to “do a new thing.” You must spend a little time, each day, in devotion to the truth about yourself and your life. You must make a conscious approach to what you think, what you feel, and what you do. Devotion will clear up misconceptions that may have obscured your vision until today!

Bestselling author Iyanla Vanzant presents a new book of devotions for anyone on the path to spiritual empowerment. These daily devotions will create powerful changes in the circumstances of your life that have held you back and will place you on the road to personal strength and peace of mind.

Excerpt
Introduction: There's Always More!

If by chance no one has told you that they love you today, I would be honored to be the first to say, I love you today! I love you because you are and have been so willing to grow. And my how you have grown! You've grown from struggling to searching. From trying to do to learning how to do. You've grown from fear to having faith, to demonstrating your courage. You have grown in many ways, consistently demonstrating your willingness and courage to take the next step -- the step toward the profound and divine wisdom buried within yourself. The step toward knowing more about yourself. This is exactly why I love you -- you are so profoundly divine.

Growth is a very profound experience. It can be beautiful and ugly, empowering and confining, thought-provoking and mind-boggling, pleasant and unpleasant, all at the same time. Just when you think you've got it, life seems to say, "Well, now take this!" And you do. Then, the minute you are ready to throw your hands up, give up or beat up on yourself for doing the same thing in the same way and ending up in the same place again, you realize you haven't done so badly after all. You know you have grown when you can meet a challenge, an obstacle or a difficulty without totally losing it. Somehow, someway in the growth process, you have come upon the understanding that the more you grow, the more you know, the more you are encouraged to grow and know.

There is more of you waiting to unfold. There is more about the world you desire to understand. There are more people coming into your life, and you are gaining more knowledge about yourself through your experiences with them. There is so much more, so much new information coming your way that you are continually being reminded that you owe it to yourself to do all you can to prepare yourself to receive these new insights. There is also so much more wealth, well-being, peace and joy waiting for you, and, because I love you, I want the very best for you. Offering you this book is a demonstration of my support as you prepare for the work and blessings that are to come.

I want to tell you a story. You know I always have to tell at least one story, and this is it. In preparing for an upcoming event, I gave my team what I thought was a simple assignment. You see, you cannot teach what you have not experienced. I asked each person, each potential teacher, to write a five-hundred-word description of themselves, using the first person, in the present tense. I had faith that these powerful and loving individuals, with whom I have worked for over seven years, would take the task in stride. What we learned in the process was profoundly healing for us all.

As we sat to review each response, my team members shared with me the overwhelming feelings, even fears, they had experienced while completing the assignment. I know from experience that examining yourself, what you do and how you feel, can be one of the most challenging and frightening things you will ever face in life. To then share that information with others is the stuff that fried brain matter is made of. Yet my team members understood that the journey into self-acceptance and self-love must begin with self-examination. We all also understood that until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life.

Each response we shared that evening was deeply moving and radically honest. More important, we all heard a bit of ourselves in each response. One response stood out. It captured what we all knew but lacked the requisite courage or insight to say. I share that response with you and pray that it will prepare you, as it has prepared us, to really examine how we do, what we do.

The Landscape of Myself

As I pondered my own response to this assignment, I came to the realization that there are three very different aspects of myself that I could describe. The question then became which aspect do I describe? Which part and how much of myself do I choose to reveal? Life is so wonderful! It is always offering to us the opportunity to get it together. So I decided to come clean and, as honestly as possible, describe all three "selves" that I have now come to know. These selves make up the landscape of me that I am working to transform. That I am devoted to transforming.

The landscape of me varies in its appearance depending on who you are, where you stand in my life and how I choose to present myself. First, there is the self that usually appears in discussions like these. The self that I want others to see. This is the self of majestic mountain peaks and verdant meadows. This is the self of strength and power. This is the self of educational and career accomplishments, leadership skills and the demonstrated commitment to service. This is the public self, the one I struggle to hold on to.

Then there is the self that does not want to be revealed. It wants to hide. This is the landscape of weaknesses. There are many valleys and few peaks in this self. This self encompasses my secret thoughts and beliefs about who I am. This is the self that I do not share with others. This is the self I travel with in times of darkness, times of fear, through experiences of worthlessness and hopelessness. Yet I have come to recognize that this self guides me to the places of the truest teachings, learning and growth.

In the landscape of this self, the topography includes places like the "swamp of self-deception," overflowing with the waters of dishonesty, steaming with the fog of selfishness and reeking with the stench of egotism. Venomous snakes of procrastination, laziness and lack of self-discipline breed here freely. Quite often they threaten to eat me alive.

Nearby lies the "valley of self-doubt." This valley is littered with huge boulders of fear, formed from anxiety about failing, held in place by the pebbles of insecurity. The ground is dry and parched from long droughts of shame and guilt. Nothing grows in this valley. It is littered with weeds of limitation and lack.

The desert of anger surrounds the valley of self-doubt. It is heated by the unrelenting sun of self-hatred and resentment that give rise to the hot winds of resistance, disobedience, competitiveness and arrogance. These winds create sandstorms of jealousy, meanness and envy.

There are places in this landscape that cannot be seen by the viewer. These are the underground caverns and caves of "not good enough" and "not worthy of good" that run beneath the swamps and the valleys and the desert. These caverns underlie all of the self-destructive, nonproductive scenes. It is only recently that I discovered just how deeply these caverns and caves extend into my life. It is on this foundation I have stood most of my life. Until today!

During this process, I found it extremely interesting that while I am able to identify the weaknesses in such great detail, I am challenged in identifying the strengths. There is, however, a third realm in the landscape of self. It is not new, but it is a place I am just beginning to know and accept. This third landscape is a place of beautiful, inspiring scenery, scenes of dreams and aspirations. It feels new to me because I have wallowed in the swamp of self-deception for far too long, visited the cave of not good enough too often -- so often, in fact, that I lost sight of my right to dream dreams and aspire to the goals that I had created for myself.

I now stand boldly in this new land, dreaming joy-filled dreams and devoted to their realization. I now see lush, sunlit hillside terraces of hope; sandy white beaches of confidence; floral gardens of self-love and mountains of faith in my ability to have it all. In this new place of dreams, I am singing and dancing with delight; visiting breathtaking sites of peace, as I walk on the abundantly wealthy earth, talking to God in the silence. I now see myself learning new things, teaching new things, creating objects of beauty, loving others and being loved passionately. Most of all I see myself in a landscape of happiness. I am just as I am, and as I become, I am.

In the landscape of dreams there is the horizon of aspiration. The aspirations are becoming clearer in this new third self. I see myself as a teacher not of the former self, but of a new, true Self. I am a teacher willing to support others in their quest to connect with God. As I learn and teach myself, I will share with others. I will teach the process that is written in the curriculum guide of the heart, as I have learned it by walking through the desert, the swamp, the cave, coming to a place of rest on the beach of devotion, in the gardens of dreams.

Isn't it amazing that we go to so many dark places to find the light we've always had? I ran from myself only to find myself through seeking to help others. I see myself with more clarity now, and I am devoted to use what God gave me in order to achieve what I desire and offer myself to the greater good of the planet. To this I am devoted.

Devotion as a Way of Life


Time spent in devotion offers divine revelations. Through this assignment, we all learned that our devotion to doing a specific thing is not about making things happen the way we want them to happen. Devotion requires a willingness, openness and readiness to embrace the truth. It is a process of opening yourself to receive what already is. God's goodness and love already exist. God's love leads us to the truth. The minute we believe that we know it all, have it all figured out, or that something about life does not apply to us, we cannot know the truth. When we devote time to knowing the truth, all else that we need has a way of finding us.

Devotion, as offered in this book, is not a New Age trick through which you can impose your will on God, the universe, or those around you. Devotion is the reverent, personal act of surrendering your will to Divine will. The devotions in this book will help you open your mind and spirit and become one with all the good that God has in store for you. We often work so hard trying to get the things we want that we miss the fact that it is the landscape of our inner world that stands between us and true happiness. When we become devoted to healing our inner world, loving and honoring ourselves and using that love as the standard by which we interact with others, all the riches of this life will fall into our laps. That is what the journey of this book is about: learning to love and honor yourself from the inside to the outside. More than this, our Creator has not asked of us.

How to Use This Book

Until Today!
is divided into twelve sections. Each section, representing one month of devotion, focuses on a spiritual principle that will support you in examining, exploring and healing the landscape of your inner thoughts and feelings. These principles are universal concepts. They are presented in an order that will guide you, step-by-step, to a deeper level of awareness of yourself and the process of life.

Each day you will read a passage. At the end of each day's passage, an old way of thinking is presented. It is presented as the Until Today! statement. This statement represents the old sentiments, resentments, beliefs, decisions, agreements, judgments and ideas that may have become habitual. Often, these are the very things that prevent us from moving into a greater experience of life and a fuller expression of our true Self. Following the Until today! statement will be a prescription for a new approach, a new way of thinking. It is presented as the Just for today statement. Your task on this journey is to remember the new way and commit yourself to the practice of it throughout the day. The practice of a new way of being will be your devotion.

Some devotions require only a thought. Thoughts become the experiences you live. Releasing old thought patterns clears the way for new patterns of living. Hold the Just for today thought in your mind, and support it by repeating the affirmation offered at the bottom of each page as often as you can during the day. As simple as it may sound, just one day of pure devotion is enough to set a pattern in motion.

Other daily devotions will require action. You will be asked to do a particular thing in a particular way as a means of putting the new thought into action. A dear friend and colleague of mine, Dr. Therman Evans, teaches us, "If you behaved yourself into a situation, you must behave yourself out of it!" Daily devotions announce to the universe your clear intention to do better, be better and experience the better things in life. One day at a time, your devotions will liberate you. Just imagine! One day at a time, one step at a time, you can take your walk of faith to the heights of your greatest potential. And you know what? Regardless of where you are, or what your current experience may be, there is always more. I can hardly wait to hear about all the good things that you will experience as a result of daily devotions.

Let me be very clear, I am in no way saying that these devotions should replace your daily devotions to God. As a matter of fact, since every devotion in this book is based on a spiritual principle, you can incorporate the work you will do through this book with whatever your religious or spiritual practices may be. This book is a companion, a signpost. It is not meant to convert you to anything you do not choose to be. You will also find that I use the words God, Spirit and Universe, interchangeably. That is because I want everyone to feel comfortable. You are, as always, free to substitute the word representing whatever sacred Being you are comfortable calling upon. Whatever you choose for yourself, if you are devoted to it, you will be blessed.

You are such a blessing to me! Yes! You are the blessing! The love, support and enthusiasm with which you have received all of my work has given me a renewed sense of purpose. You have shared with me. You have trusted me. You have encouraged me to dig a little deeper, come up with a little more, give what I find with a new, fresh insight. You keep me on my toes, and for this I am so very grateful. On this leg of our journey, I want to return the favor. I want you to dig a little deeper. I want you to study a little harder. I want you to devote a little more time to the life assignment of discovering your true Self, your God Self, celebrating life and doing what brings you joy. I pray that Until Today! will bless you with the information, principles and guidance you need to such a degree that it surpasses your wildest imaginings. In the meantime, while you are growing, know that I walk this path with you, not as a leader, but as a companion and friend.

I thank you!

I salute you!

I honor your greatness!

Iyanla
Reading Group Guide
Until Today! Discussion Group Guide
For Personal Study:
  1. It is suggested that you read the daily message each morning before you begin your day. In this way you will have ample opportunity to incorporate the principle being covered into your own life experience. Make a note of any feelings that come up for you while you are reading. It is best if you give the feeling a name, e.g., fear, resistance, acceptance, understanding, confusion, etc. Once you have named the feeling make a note of what it represents to you. Resist the temptation to agree or disagree with any particular statement. Seek the deeper understanding by exploring your feelings. Should you choose to join a study group, be open to sharing those passages that you found most difficult, or those which evoked the deepest feelings or memories for you.
  2. You are encouraged to develop the habit of writing the daily affirmation and carrying it with you. You can post it in your car, home, office, even at your desk at work. When the affirmation is read or recited daily, it reinforces the principle in your own consciousness.

For Group Study:
Each member of the group is encouraged to follow the daily personal study guide, and to use group meetings to gain further clarity or understanding about the principles. Group study is also a means of support with issues or revelations that may arise as you experience the book. We offer you the following guide for facilitating meetings in which the content of Until Today will be discussed. Of course, you are free to work with any process that is amenable to your group. The following format and process is offered as a guide to a deeper understanding of spiritual principles that foster spiritual growth and peace of mind.
Opening Processes:
  1. Center Yourself
    Take a 3-5 deep breaths, inhaling slowly, followed by a slow exhale. Rest by breathing normally for several seconds between each breath.
  2. Remember The Truth About Yourself
    I am Divine; or I am blessed; or I am open to a deeper understanding of myself and my life; or, love and light surround me. Feel free to use any statement beginning with "I am" that makes you comfortable.
  3. Open Your Heart
    Before you inhale, imagine that there is a nose in the middle of your chest. Inhale deeply from the center of your chest. As you exhale, see, fee or imagine that the breath is being released through the top of your head.
  4. Call Forth Your Higher Self, Divine Self, Angels, Guardians, Ancestors, or Guides.
    Mentally affirm that you are surrounded, supported and guided by the presence of good and loving forces. If there is a diving energy with which you feel most comfortable, call the presence forward. (E.g., Christ, Allah, Buddha, Krishna, Holy Spirit, etc.)
  5. Set an Intention for Your Experience
    "It is my intention to receive divine guidance;" or "It is my intention to gain a deeper understanding of?" or "It is my intention to gain clarity about?"or "It is my intention to experience the divine presence of?," etc.

Group Check-In (3-5 minutes per person)
This is the time for members to share any challenges, upsets, victories, and realizations they have experienced since the last meeting that are directly related to one or more of the daily messages. A simple way to begin is to share what has come up for you since the last meeting; if/how application of the principle being covered supported, assisted, guided your responses and behaviors; and where you are experiencing difficulty.
The process works best if each group member shares their own experience without judging, fixing, exploring, and challenging any other member. This means that once a person speaks, the process continues to the next person. You are encouraged to avoid cross talk and examination of personal experiences. In other words, when each group member speaks, there should be no comment about what any other member has shared. Each member should conclude their sharing with the statement, "Thank you for the opportunity to speak." This is a form of self-acknowledgement, as well as acknowledgement of others.
Once all group members have checked in, read the opening passage of the daily message for the date the group is meeting. Once the statement is read, 3-4 members, one by one, read one sentence of the message, and share how they relate to it. Relating means sharing what you understand; how it makes you feel, and any experience you can share that ties into the overall meaning of the sentence. Remember, the process does not require agreement; it is a process of self-exploration. You are encouraged to use such statements as, "What this means to me is..." and "The way I relate to this is...." Once the entire day's passage has been read, the group is open for a deeper discussion. Any group member can re-read any sentence, sharing their challenges, understanding and experience with that sentence.
When/If a group member has a challenge accepting or understanding a sentence, another group member can read it aloud. The group should then spend 2-3 minutes in silent reflection/contemplation of the sentence. Beginning with the member who read the sentence, moving around the group from member to member, each member briefly shares any new or different understanding or interpretation of the statement.
The members who had difficulty with the statement can then share whether or not they have clarity, new insight or understanding. If there is none, the members can examine why they are experiencing difficulty with journal writing at a later date. The journal-writing exercise could include completion of the following statements:
When I read this statement I feel....
What I tell myself this statement means is....
What I really feel about the statement is..., which means what I tell myself is....
This makes me feel....
Another way to understand a challenging message is to do 15 consecutive minutes of journal writing about the feeling that comes as a result of the passage. This means that you will write everything that comes to mind until your mind is clear, or until the time is over. Should you discover that the feelings which come forward are painful or unproductive, DO NOT RE-READ THE PAGE. Destroy it -- burn it, tear it, or flush it.
For the first meeting of the month, or with each new principle, the group is encouraged to create an affirmation for the group using the principle. For example, if the principle is love, an appropriate affirmation would be, "I am surrounded and protected by the divine principle of love which brings into my life all the good the love has to offer." Each member can write/post the affirmation in their home, car, or office, where it can be seen and/or recited daily to reinforce awareness of the group's intention.
Some groups may choose to devote their meeting to a discussion strictly related to the month's principle. Should this be the case, the following process if offered as a guide.

There is no right or wrong way to conduct a group meeting. You may start with one process, only to discover that there is another process which better serves the members' needs and interests. More important, remember to have fun. Spiritual growth need not be a painful or devastating process. Remember to laugh at yourself. Remember to support, nurture, and embrace yourself. Share your challenges. Revel in the new understanding you discover. Above all else, tell the truth! As you know, the truth will set you free!
I wish you joy, love, and an abundance of good things. Surely one day our paths will cross. In the meantime,
Be Blessed!

In her introduction to Until Today!, Iyanla says that, "the journey into self-acceptance and self-love must begin with self-examination.... Until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life." To this end, the author shares how she asked her staff to write a five-hundred-word description of themselves, using the first person in the present tense.
  • Discuss the personal description called "The Landscape of Myself" from Iyanla's introduction. Try this assignment yourself, keeping in mind the essay that the author shares. Remember, although this may be a struggle, this can be an instructive way to further focus on the work you want to do - and it will likely reveal some inner resources you didn't know you have! Discuss some of what you wrote down about yourself, and share your reactions about the process and what you discovered.

January's theme is allowing life to work for you.
  • Retrace your plan for this coming year of UNTIL TODAY! activity. What goals have you discovered, or have you set in motion? How has embracing the Law of First Things (accepting, acknowledging, and embracing God first in all things) made a difference in your life?
  • If you've tried it, how has being silent for ten minutes at a time impacted you? What have you learned by practicing patience? Share what you have discovered about enacting these changes, and what occupies your thoughts, and how you are feeling.
  • Are you living in the moment, in the present, or bringing up the past by reminding yourself of how bad things have been for you? Have you been able to bring yourself into the present each day? What are a few things that you've been avoiding, and what are you doing to squarely face them? How have you learned to take responsibility for your life?
  • At the end of the month, go back to any lessons you had trouble with or chose not to do, and try them again. Examine what caused the difficulty and what you did about it (or what you didn't do about it). Chances are these lessons are very valuable to your growth.

"Love," February's focus, "is who you are," says Iyanla.
  • Look at the entry for February 1, and practice treating everyone around you how you treat yourself. How did this make you feel? How did it make a difference in you day? Discuss what the author means when she says, "How you see yourself, how you treat yourself, and how you express yourself is a direct reflection of your true beliefs about love. When you can be gentle and compassionate with yourself, you will feel love." Share a time or situation when this has borne out.
  • When people lie to you, speak ill of you for no good reason, or strike out at you, how can you greet this lack of love with love? If you've tried this, how did it make you feel? How do you withhold love? If you're in an abusive relationship, can you begin to understand how by participating in activities that are not loving toward you, you are helping to hurt yourself? Explore the idea that love is not a tool or a weapon. Ask yourself if you are receiving all that you are giving, and share your answer.
  • Are you relationship material? How are you willing to open your heart? Are you willing to allow others to see yourself exactly the way you do? Why is it not a sign of loving someone when you withhold information that you think will disturb them? If you are wondering why you should stay in a friendship or relationship, and how you can leave without hurting or being hurt, are you fully present in a loving situation? Consider what has happened as a result of this newfound expression and acceptance of what love means, and share your feelings about it.
  • At the end of the month, go back to any lessons you had trouble with or chose not to do, and try them again. Examine what caused the difficulty and what you did about it (or what you didn't do about it).

Awareness, March's topic, looks at judgments of all types.
  • How can you execute the entry for March 4, which asks that you devote yourself to living without judgments? Explore the notion that "when you make a judgment you make a decision about the way things are is not the way things need to be." How does this reflect your belief of right and wrong? Examine how a judgment is a means of control.
  • Who in your life is an adult in body, but not a grown-up in mind? Are you? What adult behaviors and qualities would you like to develop? How can you accomplish this?
  • Are you unkind, inattentive, critical, and unsupportive of yourself? What are some things you can do to be more aware of how you treat yourself?
  • At the end of the month, go back to any lessons you had trouble with or chose not to do, and try them again. Examine what caused the difficulty and what you did about it (or what you didn't do about it).

April looks at acknowledging things.
  • April 1 and April 2 explore the big topic of acknowledging the many things we have not done in life. What are some of these things in your life? What are some of the excuses you offer? How does acknowledging these things make it easier to begin tackling them?
  • What is your life saying to you? Have you been afraid to hear what you are saying to yourself about your life? Why?
  • If you are a person who thrives on bad news and gossip, or are waiting to receive some good news, try Iyanla 's suggestion of being the good news in your own life. How does it feel? Does it change the way you perceive the day? What can you recommend about this to your friends? Is there a time or situation when you could have stopped yourself from walking down the path of negative reaction? Share your response if you've tried this recently.
  • If you're used to telling others what to do, try not doing this for a day. Instead, share your experiences or insights. What happened when you did this? How about admitting that you made a mistake, either recent or past? If you have trouble doing this, try it and share how it made you feel.
  • At the end of the month, go back to any lessons you had trouble with or chose not to do, and try them again. Examine what caused the difficulty and what you did about it (or what you didn't do about it).

Acceptance is at the core of May's explorations.
  • Discuss the May 2 crucial examination of acceptance. If you truly want to grow, ask yourself whether or not you are willing to run the risk of making some people mad, and if you are, what has been bugging you enough that you will choose to disagree with someone about? Are you willing to leave some people behind if you want to move ahead? Explore the idea that "liking you is not anyone's purpose in life except yours."
  • Iyanla says that, "If you really want to know who you are and what you are capable of achieving, you must be willing to live without the opinions of other people. That means don't ask for opinions!" Examine how you can accomplish this, and if you've tried it, how it made you feel.
  • How has second-guessing yourself gotten you into trouble? Discuss some occasions this has happened and what you might do to stop this destructive behavior. Try doing your best and accepting you've done your best. How does this make you feel? What can you share that helped you be successful? Are there other aspects of your behavior that you feel are unacceptable and prevent others from liking you? What would you eliminate that would make you happier? What can you do to move beyond what you think you have not been towards what you'd like to be?
  • At the end of the month, go back to any lessons you had trouble with or chose not to do, and try them again. Examine what caused the difficulty and what you did about it (or what you didn't do about it).

Forgiveness is not something you do, Iyanla says in the June chapter. "It is a state of being that when offered brings forth the truth of who you are."
  • Explore what this important idea and how this applies to your life.
  • The entry for June 2 is worth a close look. Examine the unconscious loyalties you may have to inaccurate information others have said about you. To help yourself, answer the following important questions: 1) What do I believe about myself? 2) How do I demonstrate this belief? 3)What do I remember being told about myself? 4) How does my behavior support what I have been told? Share and discuss what you have uncovered. How can you devote yourself to breaking the strong loyalties you have to believing the inaccurate information about yourself?
  • How can you forgive yourself for all of the infractions you have committed against your true self? How does it feel to not spend a day beating yourself up for all of the things you did not do to your satisfaction? What can you do to stop this behavior in its tracks? What would tell others if you saw them doing this?
  • What can you do to stop being fascinated with things past, and move into doing what's important right now?
  • At the end of the month, go back to any lessons you had trouble with or chose not to do, and try them again. Examine what caused the difficulty and what you did about it (or what you didn't do about it).

July's theme, understanding, asks you to accept that there will always be things we can't understand.
  • Do you agree? When are some moments when you've experienced this? Has knowing this helped you during those times?
  • The lesson on July 5 examines the important topic of wasted time and energy. Do you find you are spending a lot of time wondering why you are not further along, or doing something different, at the moment? Ask yourself where it is that you think you need to be. Also ask, "what do I believe about where I am?" "What do I think about where I am?" "What do I feel about it?" "What do I tell myself about it?" Discuss whether or not where you are is fine with you, and why.
  • Why does Iyanla say that, "our ability to adapt in order to fit in enables us to run the risk of forgetting who we are"? Discuss some situations where you have "adapted" yourself to someone else's ideas and expectations, and what happened as a result. Do you wear a mask for each "role" in your life? What can you do to wear your true colors all the time?
  • At the end of the month, go back to any lessons you had trouble with or chose not to do, and try them again. Examine what caused the difficulty and what you did about it (or what you didn't do about it).

August's central focus is faith.
  • Examine what Iyanla means when she says, "What you make in your own mind is what you put your faith into just to prove to yourself that what you believe is correct." What does it mean that you may not have realized that you have the ability to experience anything and everything good that you desire? Try expecting good, believing in good, and trusting that something good in you will bring something good through you. What happened?
  • Taking the lessons learned so far from UNTIL TODAY!, consider how August 6 looks at being paralyzed by "when," if," "if only," or "because." Act as if, "Now is the time," and make something happen in your life that you've been wanting. What did you do, and how did it work out? What would you tell others who have also been waiting for "someday," fearful of going after what they want now?
  • If you are someone that always does for others and asks nothing in return (there are lots out there!), allow people to compliment you, allow someone do something for you -- even a small thing -- without feeling obligated to do anything in return. How did it feel? Why do you feel you have to earn anything nice? Do you make others feel that way when you do something nice for them?
  • At the end of the month, go back to any lessons you had trouble with or chose not to do, and try them again. Examine what caused the difficulty and what you did about it (or what you didn't do about it).

September examines the many sides of trust.
  • Spend some time exploring the eminently important September 1 missive that trust is a simple process. Ask yourself whether or not you trust yourself? Do you trust others? Discuss the idea that if you do not trust others, it is perhaps a reflection of the fact that you do not trust yourself. If you don't trust others, Iyanla says, you cannot live open and fully which means that you expect to be hurt. How does this impact your life? What can you do to change your belief about trust being a learned response?
  • What do you make of the idea that trust is never out there, but it resides within you? That it's a decision, a reflection of your beliefs. Do you agree that it's not about being comfortable, but about being willing to move beyond your comfort zone when there is no evidence you will be supported? Why?
  • Make a list of all of the experiences in which you feel you've been betrayed. Talk about this with others, and figure out when you first saw the signs of betrayal? Ask yourself why you ignored those signs, and what you were really trying to accomplish in the relationship.
  • At the end of the month, go back to any lessons you had trouble with or chose not to do, and try them again. Examine what caused the difficulty and what you did about it (or what you didn't do about it).

Worth, October's theme, is summed up well in the October 2 entry, "You are not what happens to you. You are how you handle what happens."
  • Explore different situations you've been in where knowing this would have made a difference. How can you internalize it now?
  • How long are you going to hold onto things that are not working in your best interests? How longs are you going to deny yourself, your feelings, and your power in order to meet the demands and expectations of others? Discuss what it means to you that life is not about holding on, is not about doing what will make others believe you are worthy? Try "letting go of thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, ideas and people standing in the way of your desire to stand squarely in your worthiness." How does it feel?
  • Discuss the idea that "the destruction of self-worth begins the moment we assign a value to something outside ourselves." Have you ever considered someone or something more important than you? Try thinking of yourself first, taking care of yourself first. How does it feel? Would you recommend this to others? Why?
  • What do you stick labels onto? Consider the fact that labels are descriptive, protective, deceptive - and can be removed. Consider whether or not you've labeled people, men and women, and what else you can do besides stick one on there?
  • At the end of the month, go back to any lessons you had trouble with or chose not to do, and try them again. Examine what caused the difficulty and what you did about it (or what you didn't do about it).

November looks at service, and asks whether or not you understand the difference between service and control. Do you?
  • Examine a time when you have attempted to fix, change or help someone, and when you have given something you have without expecting recognition or a reward. Are you able to do what you are asked to do -- and nothing more? Give 100 percent of your attention without causing yourself harm? Try giving service with love, in joy, and see how it feels.
  • When have you been sucked into letting difficult people create difficulty for you? How can you change your perspective from blaming them to blessing and accepting them? What purpose could this serve?
  • If you find yourself in the middle of a difficult situation, don't shut down, but open up. Try this, and see how it feels. What are some difficulties and challenges that you face? By trying to remain open we accept that life will move us along anyhow. Is there a situation where, in hindsight, this might have worked? Can you draw on this now?
  • At the end of the month, go back to any lessons you had trouble with or chose not to do, and try them again. Examine what caused the difficulty and what you did about it (or what you didn't do about it).

Peace reigns in December.
  • The December 7 entry is worth settling down with for a spell: "I will know peace when .. . I reclaim all the pieces of myself." Do you feel like you've given too much of yourself away? If you can't seem to get it together, perhaps you have over-compensated, compromised, given in and given over too much of yourself. Examine all the times you gave others the right to make your decisions, when you expected others to do for you what only you had the power to do. What are some of the things that you do that diminish and distort your sense of wholeness and your ability to make your own decisions? What can you tell others about getting out of this predicament?
  • Have you ever been so angry with someone that you shut them down (most of us have!)? How can you set clear boundaries so this doesn't continue to happen? What can you do to let others know what you need and want? Do you think this would allow them to decide of they want to be involved? What power struggles have you been in recently that could have been resolved by setting better boundaries?
  • Fear of being hurt causes all sorts of unrest and upset. What have these fears motivated you to do, or not do? Has the November service work helped with current dilemmas? Why, or why not?
About The Author
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Rev. Dr. Iyanla Vanzant, author and internationally renowned speaker, is best known for her riveting work as the host of Iyanla Fix My Life on the OWN (Oprah Winfrey Network). Oprah herself has called Iyanla, “the most powerful spiritual healer, fixer, teacher, on the planet.”  Oprah Winfrey has publicly acknowledged that Fix My Life and Iyanla was the turning point for the fledgling Oprah Winfrey Network. Susan Taylor, former editor-in-chief of Essence magazine calls her, “The real deal,” in the arena of personal healing and spiritual growth.”  Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love says, “Iyanla is a walking, talking, miracle in heels, who carries the energy to heal the masses.” Many of the 2.8 million people who follow her on Facebook lovingly call her, “auntie,” yet if you ask Iyanla she would say, “I am just an ordinary person committed to doing extraordinary things as a demonstration of what is possible when you love God, have faith in yourself, and trust the amazing process called life.”

As the Founder and Executive Director of the Inner Visions Institute for Spiritual Development, Iyanla conducts workshops and classes around the country, throughout Africa and the UK. Sharing her brand of practical spiritual wisdom, a blend of ancient African wisdom and universal principles, Iyanla has touched the minds and heart of more than 8 million readers in 23 languages. Her latest venture, the creation of MasterPeace Body Therapy, a line of natural body care products has received rave reviews on HSN.

Cooking and making scrapbooks are her guilty pleasures. Studying the Bible and other sacred texts is the foundation of her life. Iyanla cherishes her collection of over 100 Bibles in various translations. Watching re-runs of Law and Order is her joy. Spending time with her grandchildren and doing her own laundry is what keeps her grounded. Knowing that she is on purpose; loving what she does; doing everything with excellence; is what Iyanla Vanzant says makes her the woman that she is today.

Product Details
  • Publisher: Atria Books (October 2012)
  • Length: 432 pages
  • ISBN13: 9781476714493

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