"Coping with Setbacks and Loss" from Chapter 12
There’s no way to sugarcoat it: life is freakin’ hard. It punches you in the face, waits for you to get up, and then punches you again. That is the nature of life. In fact, I’ve written this book through the spring and summer of 2020, a year that has been marked by an unprecedented global pandemic. This has been a hard
year for many, many people around the world. Not only have hundreds of thousands lost their lives to COVID-19, but exponentially more have lost their incomes, jobs, health insurance, personal freedoms, and any sense of normalcy or security. In short, many people have lost their hope this year.
As I watch the news or check in with friends, I see that people are living in fear right now. They’re “hunkered in a bunker,” waiting for the storm to pass. However, those of us who have been through terrible loss know a secret: even when the storm passes, another will roll in sooner or later. Again, that’s the nature of life: it punches us in the face . . . repeatedly
. I recently heard legendary Rocky
star Sylvester Stallone—no stranger to getting punched in the face—say, “Nobody punches harder than life. Life is undefeated. You can’t beat it. You just have to go on the defensive.”
If you’re reading this book, you already know that, because you or someone you love has just been knocked down by loss and you’re on your knees searching for answers and support. The life you have known, the relationships and balance that once brought you such comfort, have been shaken, and now you’re struggling.