Harville Hendrix's New York Times bestseller Keeping the Love You Find offered essential relationship strategies to those seeking a mate for life. Now, Harville and his wife, Helen Hunt, bring the life-changing messages of that enormously popular book to The Personal Companion. Combining practical advice, humor, and enlightening wisdom, these daily meditations and exercises provide powerful insights that can help anyone create unlimited possibilities for finding -- and keeping -- love. Whatever your history, whatever your heartache, your dreams of finding a truly compatible mate are completely achievable, not through luck or extraordinary skill, but by taking daily steps toward inner growth and positive change. With The Personal Companion as your guide, you can move closer to a joyful, healing love, as you:
Create hope in place of despair, companionship instead of loneliness
Develop a communication skill that turns conflict into contact and bonding
Transform every past relationship into a source of positive growth
Reflect on your inner self -- and what you want out of love
Identify and change how you prevent yourself from keeping the love you find
Discover the rewards of real love -- and the little things that make it last.
With wisdom and compassion, Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt give you the keys to sharing in the deep and lasting love you desire, in The Personal Companion.
DAY 1: THE FIRST STEP A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step. -- Lao-Tzu The life of a single person can be emotionally turbulent. Our hopes and dreams about finding a lasting love sometimes send us soaring sky high. At other times, our confusion and despair over ever finding partnership can plunge us into an abyss. It's not surprising that many singles simply give up the search. Having experienced the turmoil inherent in setting their sights on a fulfilling love relationship, they decide, grudgingly, to lower their standards and make the best of their single state. You don't have to settle for where you are, however. You can -- and will -- find and keep a lasting love if you work actively toward that goal. It doesn't require extraordinary skill or luck. It simply involves walking forward with both feet on the ground. Instead of allowing ourselves to fly up into the clouds or dive down into the caverns, we need to focus on making one small step after another toward our destination. As we gradually learn new attitudes and skills, the sheer momentum of positive change will help move us along. The Personal Companion illustrates how to realize your goal of a committed partnership -- one that heals all the hurts you've accumulated since childhood and that brings you the highest joys life has to offer. Follow this guide day by day, and trust in yourself, and your journey will be both wondrous and successful.
Today, commit yourself to doing the work in this book for one year. Ifpossible, choose a particular time of day when you can consistently set aside at least one half hour: around ten minutes to read the entry and do the accompanying task, and around twenty minutes to perform the meditation.
In stillness today, I vow to bring the totality of my being into this work I am about to begin.
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., a clinical pastoral counselor and co-creator of Imago Relationship Therapy, has more than thirty-five years' experience as an educator, public lecturer, and couples' therapist.