"What an urgent and necessary book. Strauss understands care as labor that has been unremunerated, unrecognized, made practically invisible by a culture that fetishizes independence. She works to correct this undervaluation, elegantly arguing that the care we take of others is the very stuff of life, that it shapes the way we love, the space we take up in the world, our relationships with those we love and with ourselves. Would that our policy makers read and truly absorb this deeply researched, thoughtful and persuasive book." —Rebecca Traister, New York Times bestselling author of All the Single Ladies and Good and Mad

"In this brilliantly argued and timely book, Elissa Strauss takes on centuries of theology, philosophy, science, economics and the pervasive cultural attitudes that have for too long diminished care as a woman’s burden, offered shallow praise, or erased care entirely from our history. Instead, she calls for a total reimagining of care, one that demands we see that it is in our relationships to one another, the way we give and receive care, that we are all able to be most fully human. And rather than keep care tucked in the margins, it is time to acknowledge, celebrate and support how central care is to life itself." —Brigid Schulte, award-winning journalist, author of the New York Times bestselling Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time, and director of The Better Life Lab at New America

"A deeply researched—and deeply felt—exploration of the beautiful truth about care: that we find, feed and know ourselves through our relationships. When You Care is a pleasure to read: bold, brave, and exquisitely written." —Judith Warner, author of And Then They Stopped Talking to Me: Making Sense of Middle School and the New York Times-bestselling Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety

“In When You Care, Elissa Strauss has written an essential book. Although she writes it from the perspective of a mother, it’s not only for mothers but for all of humankind. A revolutionary, she doesn’t deliver her message in loud and hectoring tones, but instead in beautifully sensitive prose brimming with warmth and compassion. She’s not only showing us the way to the next stage of feminism but to humanism—the full recognition of what it means to take responsibility not only for our lives but also for one another.” —Rebecca Newberger Goldstein, author of Plato at the Googolplex: Why Philosophy Won’t Go Away and recipient of the MacArthur Fellowship and the National Medal of the Humanities

"When You Care is a fascinating, expansive exploration of care—the boundless forms it takes, the depth of what it means to care, and care as both a foundation and a call to action. Bursting with intricate research and thoughtful stories, this book examines and centers care in ways that are both profoundly stirring and deeply necessary." —Rainesford Stauffer, author of An Ordinary Age and All the Gold Stars

“When You Care is destined to be a modern classic. It presents a long overdue and urgent case for why embracing care is the key to unlocking our potential as a society. Strauss has made the invisible work of care visible and argues brilliantly for its value. A must read." —Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play

“In a world that values independence, [Strauss] asserts that caring for others has become largely underrated. But what if we looked at caring as an opportunity to bring meaning and purpose into others' lives? What if there were financial and emotional help for caregivers? [...] Strauss presents a convincing case for valuing and aiding in this vital task, as well as appreciating the lessons it teaches. This would be overdue recognition for many overworked and underpaid caregivers.” —Booklist

“A deep exploration of caregiving’s potential to shape individuals and societies in positive ways…Specific, frank, refreshing observations about the impact of care.” —Kirkus